because it cannot be both ways
i'd like to think he'd say, "live, H"
he'd surely say, "i lived my life, don't you live it again"
he'd tell you to stay alive in the gifted moment you get to live, and when a memory of him arises to greet it with a kiss and a smile and to go ahead and hear his words so often spoken over you, "You're the best." I believe he meant it from deepest place in him and that is what he'd want for you - the best. The heartiest of laughs and the fullest of full good tears. The last thing he'd ever want is for his life to be the weight that brings you heaviness in anyway.
Choose life, bright girl, choose your life, and live it to the full.